As a child, I’d always dreamt of going to university. I really liked to learn and, like most, would often play career roulette throughout my school years. I went from wanting to become an author, to an astronaut, to even a dancer. And while my dream career kept changing, one thing that did not was my desire to go to university. An almost “Rory Gilmore-like” desire to be that student. For me, it became a means to end. However, very little prepares you for what happens when you do meet that end – that is, graduation.
Now freshly graduated, here are a few reflections I’ve had since leaving the student’s nest:
1. You might feel a little exposed, but that’s okay!
While studying you’ll often hear alumni, mentors or staff advise that you make the most out of being a student. I gradually recognised that the title alone acts as an umbrella for a number of endeavours you’ll make during your time at university; be it, internships, placements or scholarships. However, once that veil is lifted, you’re faced with the reality of the world, standing at the threshold of the job market – which, truthfully, can feel quite overwhelming. You may even feel like an inbetweener, unsure of how to label yourself until you decide on your next move. But that’s perfectly normal. It’s important to give yourself the grace to exhale, embrace, and engage:
Exhale: Give yourself an opportunity to unclench and relax from the demands of student life. Let your rest be as intentional as your moments of productivity.
Embrace: Celebrate. After 20+ years in the education system, embrace the memories, trials, and success of your academic journey thus far.
Engage: With an open mind, be willing to explore and engage with the options that are available to you. The world is your oyster, take your time.
2. Guard your heart
The tendency to view ourselves unfavourably in comparison to others is a challenge that can persist from student life to post-graduate life. It’s subtle and, if left unchecked, may take a toll on your self-esteem. Seeing your course-mates, colleagues, or friends advance while you feel stagnant can be super difficult. However, take heart in the knowledge that comparison is the thief of joy. While it’s important to celebrate others, remember that your support shouldn’t come at the expense of appreciating your own achievements. You are not diminished by a standstill, and a time will surely come when those you clapped for will be congratulating you!
3. Find your intentionality
As mentioned before, being a student equips you with an umbrella of support, but it also provides a solid structure for that period of your life. Returning home from university, you may feel as though the foundation you relied on for so long is now gone – but there is an opportunity in this transition. You now have the unique platform to discover your intentionality, so use this time to consider what truly matters to you.
What are your core values? What passions did you develop at university?
Identifying these factors can act as a guiding compass for the next chapter of your life, so leverage this insight to mould your future.
A massive congratulations to anyone who has recently graduated. I hope the next chapter of your journey is as rewarding as the last, and I wish you all the best!
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